Insecurity is something we all face at some point in our lives. Whether it’s self-doubt, fear of failure, or feeling like we’re not good enough, insecurity can hold us back from stepping into our full potential. In a recent solo episode of March or Die, host Jeremy Stalnecker breaks down the nature of insecurity, why it affects us, and most importantly, how to overcome it.
If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt, this blog will walk you through eight practical steps to help you break free from insecurity and take control of your life.
What is Insecurity and Where Does It Come From?
Before we talk about overcoming insecurity, we need to understand what it actually is. Insecurity is what we believe to be true about ourselves but want to hide from others. It’s that nagging voice inside that tells us we’re not smart enough, capable enough, or worthy enough.
While insecurity isn’t necessarily fear itself, it can lead to fear—especially the fear of being “found out” by others. It often comes from:
- Feelings of inadequacy (not feeling educated, experienced, or talented enough).
- Comparison (measuring ourselves against others who seem to have it all together).
- Unrealistic expectations from others (being pushed into roles we’re not equipped for).
- A fear of rejection or judgment (believing people will see us as a fraud).
The problem with insecurity is that it keeps us stuck. Instead of moving forward, we second-guess ourselves, avoid challenges, and allow doubt to dictate our decisions. But there’s good news: insecurity doesn’t have to control you.
8 Steps to Overcome Insecurity and Build Confidence
So how do we break free from insecurity? Here are eight practical steps to help you move forward with confidence.
- Be Honest With Yourself and Others
The first step to overcoming insecurity is honesty. Instead of pretending to have it all together, acknowledge your weaknesses. Being insecure isn’t a sin—it’s a reality that you can address.
If you’re struggling with self-doubt, don’t be afraid to admit it. Seek guidance, ask for help, and lean into your strengths while improving your weaknesses.
- Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Comparison is a major cause of insecurity. We often assume that successful people never struggle with doubt—but that’s not true. Everyone experiences insecurity at some point.
Rather than comparing yourself to others, focus on your own journey. Learn from people you admire, but don’t let their success make you feel like you’re not enough.
- Make the Best Decision With the Information You Have
A big reason insecurity holds us back is fear of making the wrong decision. The truth is, no one has all the answers.
Instead of waiting for perfect clarity, make the best decision you can with the information you have right now. If new information comes later, you can always adjust. The key is to keep moving forward.
- Seek Wise Counsel, But Own Your Decisions
Seeking advice is essential, but at the end of the day, you are the one who has to live with your choices.
When making big decisions, get input from people you trust, but don’t let their opinions dictate your actions. Be confident in your choices and take responsibility for them.
- Surround Yourself With Supportive People
Not everyone in your life will be supportive. Some people will doubt you, criticize you, or even hope for your failure. That’s why it’s crucial to have people who believe in you.
Find friends, mentors, and colleagues who encourage you, allow you to be yourself, and remind you of your strengths. The right people can make all the difference in your confidence and growth.
- Pray and Depend on God
Faith is a powerful tool against insecurity. When doubt creeps in, turn to God in prayer.
The Bible encourages us to bring our fears to God and trust that He has a plan for us. James 1:5 reminds us:
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”
When you rely on God, you don’t have to figure everything out on your own. He sees your potential, even when you don’t.
- Trust That God Knows You Better Than You Know Yourself
Often, we let insecurity define us. We believe that our weaknesses make us unqualified for the roles we’re in. But God knows you better than you know yourself.
He sees your strengths, your potential, and your purpose. If you’re in a position where you feel unqualified, trust that God placed you there for a reason. He will equip you with what you need.
- If It’s Your Job to Do, Then Do It
At the end of the day, you have a choice: let insecurity hold you back or step forward in faith.
You may not have all the answers. You may not feel fully ready. But if this is your role, your calling, your mission—then take the next step.
Success isn’t about never feeling insecure. It’s about choosing to move forward despite insecurity.
Final Thoughts: March Forward With Confidence
Overcoming insecurity isn’t about eliminating doubt completely. It’s about acknowledging your weaknesses, learning, growing, and stepping forward anyway.
The difference between successful people and those who stay stuck isn’t that they never feel insecure—it’s that they don’t let insecurity stop them.
So ask yourself:
- Where is insecurity holding you back in your life?
- What step can you take today to move forward despite your doubts?
Remember, March when it would be easier to stay where you are and die.
Listen to the Full Episode
If this topic resonated with you, check out the full episode of March or Die with Jeremy Stalnecker for more insights on overcoming insecurity and building confidence.
